Love a Little More

“I love you!” The words just hung there in the air suspended for the moment, drifting, waiting for the echo…”I love you, too!”

I thought about it and wondered if there really needs be an echo, a reply of the same.

“Why do we tell someone “I love you?” I wondered. Oh, the obvious point is to let someone know you care about them. But do we say it so that we can hear it back? If we say those words they certainly aren’t taken or given lightly. There is power behind them, woven in between them and laced with tone’s of commitment. But do we also say them because we, too need reassurance? Are we really saying it this way; “I love you! Do you love me?”

I believe the best things in life come to us without expectations. It reminds me of the tradition of sending greeting cards.

“Should I send a birthday card to Uncle Joe?”

“Did you get one from him for your birthday?

“No.”

“Well, I wouldn’t send one to him.”

Or…”John we got a card from the Phillips for Christmas. Did we send them one?”

“No. I don’t remember getting one from them last year. Remember we decided to send cards only to those who send us one?”

How many things do you do that you label as “giving” when in reality you are expecting a return for your gesture?

Have you ever given something anonymously?

I’m not suggesting that it’s wrong to say “I love you” because you long to hear it. I just wondered how many times we say it without expectations.

So I experimented with it. The last several times when my wife said it to me, I didn’t reply with the same words. I would say “thanks.” In some cases I replied with a hug. Other times I said or did nothing. The words hung in mid air. Last night I sighed. That got me into trouble. The sigh seemed to give a different signal.

For me, hearing the words echo back doesn’t mean that much.   It seems too mechanical. Like “Thank you” and “You’re welcome.”   It’s polite and proper, but expected.

So here’s what I’ve come up with.

Touch a little more. A hand on a shoulder, a gentle touch on a chin. If you are sitting near each other, play “footsies” gently bumping, nudging your loved one’s foot. In this new society of keeping our distance, not invading one’s space for fear of misunderstanding the gesture, the human spirit longs for touch.

Smile a little more. In a passing glance, return a soft, gentle smile. Practice it in the mirror and you’ll see how your eyes are involved in this expression of love. They seem to sparkle and brighten as they tell the person you bring joy to my life.

Offer to do a little more. “Can I get you something?” “Let me get that for you.” “No, sit I’ll get the phone.” Watch the expression and body language on that person when you do this. They suddenly feel special, like royalty.

Call a little more. For no reason at all. “Just needed to hear your voice.” “I thought about you and thought I’d give you a call.” You won’t see it, but when they hang up they walk a little taller, the smile will linger for a while.

Write a little more. Don’t send a card. Don’t send an email. Take a piece of paper, an envelope and write a quick note to someone you love. Here in America it costs 39 cents. Do you realize how valuable that investment is? In these times what can you buy for 39 cents that could possibly be as valuable as a hand written note. Oh, yes. Send it even if you live in the same household.

Be quiet together a little more. Sitting in silence with someone you love creates an energy in that space that is breathtaking and unforgettable. Listen to the sound of love, two hearts beating in one continuous rhythm, sending pulsating waves of immeasurable force into the world.

Now try saying “I love you” without expectation. If you are doing all of these things those words will not need an echo. They will not hang in mid air and die in sadness because you didn’t hear them back. They will be absorbed by the one they were intended for and they will sigh, not in frustration or confusion, but in satisfaction of knowing it is so.

You actually do this already. When you pray, you say “I love you, God.” You don’t wait for a deep sounding voice in reply. “This is God…I love you, too!”

Why?

Because it is understood. We know He loves us not because we hear it, but because we experience it, feel it, and know it.

Our true love for Him is not in the words we say, but in the way we live. When we love each other we love God.

I write for you as an expression of love although we have never met.

If you know that, take a deep breath and sigh.

“I believe in You!”
~ Bob Perks ~

Faith is Everyting

Michael is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. He even has scripture memorized! When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would have already been raptured!”

He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Michael was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation. And give him a bible verse.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Michael and asked him, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?” Michael replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Mike, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Then I memorize a bible verse.

Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I always choose the positive side of life. And then I give them a bible verse.

“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested. “Yes, it is,” Michael, said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. And you choose whether God is a part of your life or not. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.” I reflected on what Michael said.

Soon thereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. And then I memorized a bible verse.

Several years later, I heard that Michael was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Michael was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.

I saw Michael about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied. “If I were any better, I would have already been raptured! Wanna see my scars?” And he recited a bible verse.

I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place. “The first thing that went through my mind was the well being of my soon to be born daughter,” Michael replied. “Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live. Then all these bible verses came to mind and comforted me.

“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked. Michael continued, “…the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read ‘he’s a dead man.’ I knew I needed to take action.” “What did you do?” I asked. It was then I recited the Lord’s Prayer out loud for all to hear.

“Well, then there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Michael. She asked if I was allergic to anything. “Yes, I replied.” The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, “Gravity.” Over their laughter, I told them, “I am choosing to live and my guardian angels are all around. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead”.

Michael lived thanks to God, the angels, skill of his doctors and also because of his determination and amazing faith. I learned from him that every day we have the choice how we live.

Faith, after all, is everything

TRIVIA TRIVIA TRIVIA!!!!!

 I got some of these from my good buddies!=D Thanks for the info!
Did you know that:

-Our metabolism slows down after 7pm?
-Our nose and ears continue to grow?
-The size of our eyes are the same since we were born?
-We can only 10% of our brains capacity voluntarily?
-We’ve already seen the people in our dreams?
-The chinese invented the first mechanical clock, but they thought it was the germans?
-Our palms change every 7 years?
-French fries weren’t made in France?
-The hamburger wasn’t made in Germany?
-There are only 23 hrs. and 56 minutes in a day?
-Diesel fuels in the Philippines burn clearer than the ones in L.A.?
-The Catholic Church’s marriage limit is 14 Yrs. old for females, and 16 Yrs.old for males?
- We seldomly hear songs that don’t have the words “I”, “Me”, or “My”?
- Data stored in Room-sized Computers can now be stored in our tiny flash drives?
- Back packs or Napsacks were the ideas of the Native Americans?
- Without Oxygen, the color of our blood is blue, not red?
- Jupiter has saved the Earth’s ass so many times from asteroids?
- The Catholic Church admitted that there was no hell?
- Spaghetti originated in China, not Italy?
- If a human being would shout out for the rest of his life, he could boil a glass of water?
- Ferdinand Magellan wasn’t spanish, he was Portuguese?
- The Japanese tounges pronounce L’s as R’s?
- Consequently, the Chinese pronounce R’s as L’s?
- The Mall of Asia was intentionally built flatter because it’s standing on reclaimed area?
- Until now, the human civilization were only at peace for 8% of its whole existence?
- The toast of beer mugs was a sign of brotherhood? (It means that if a warrior poisoned his fellow warrior, the beer, along with the poison, would spill into the former.)

Cool, huh? It’s up to you to believe these. I’ll add more when I could get new ideas. =D

Whatta Day?! July 19, 2008

Wise Words From a Man I Don’t Know.

The Story of Midas

Humans

We are all humans. We were made to feel, to heal, to fall, and be false. That’s who we really are. We all make mistakes, even the stupidest of all. It’s true, it’s true. And it’s natural. We weren’t made perfect. We weren’t made to always be correct. But not every human forgives. Not every human deserves a second chance. With mistakes that were done, you lose everything. And whatever you say or do to redeem yourself, to regain your loss, you won’t get another chance. It’s unfortunate and sad that this is true. Though there are lucky ones who get the chance to redeem themselves, they ruin it all over again. Yes, we are humans. We make mistakes. We were made to feel, heal, fall and be false. But we are also made to think, risk, realize, and save people, including ourselves.

So think deep before you act. Cuz if you hurt somebody, they might not take the risk to give you a second chance. Never think that you can always redeem yourself for this is the one that causes you to make mistakes. And once you lose everything, you’ll be lucky to even breath through all the pain. Karma exists. Pain and suffering does not end. It only circulates and comes back to the ones that caused it. The wound that you’ve inflicted will come back to you a hundred times deeper.

You don’t know when the pain will hit you. But beware that all of it might stab you all at once, that you won’t be able to survive it.

That’s why humans must all do what they were made to do in harmony. Think before you act. Risk if the fall is worth it. Realize what you’ve done. Redeem what you can. Feel the pain that you have caused. Feel the joy that you deserve. Share.. Save.. Have Faith.. For this is what it means to be a person.

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